Going Down The Rabbit Hole – Group Dynamics

I remember taking a group dynamics course. There were a group of 5-6 of us. We each had to play various roles while conducting workshops on various topics. I remember wondering what the importance of this course is.

Little did I know, 15 years later… it would dawn on me that working on boards, you see this so clearly. You will always have a naysayer in the group. You will have a person who takes charge. You will have lots of people who need the motivation to continue to work and need reminding.

I reflect on this as I am coaching a president in how to navigate her role successfully. I can’t help but remember my own trials and tribulations and I learned this early on in my career and I can’t help but assess myself way back then.

I have always been a take charge person. As the second eldest who was thrusted into the eldest child role, I always had to lead. I also realized I ask for forgiveness after. I am the type of person who you don’t need to tell how to do it, it’ll just get done.

I reflect back in life, when I stepped back from the leadership role to give other people an opportunity to become leaders themselves, I remember a girl in my group looking at me like I was crazy. I also saw how people look up to you and for me, it has always scared me being a role model for people. Do you know how much pressure that is on someone? I am just trying to live my best life, making mistakes, learning and growing.

However, looking back and looking to where I am now, I have noticed patterns and I realize I needed to change them for me to help people become the best they can be.

So as I type well worded emails for the president to use as she is asking her other board of directors to meet with her so she can coach them, I can’t help but reflect upon how much I have grown as well. Imagine me? A millennial teaching someone my mother’s age on how to phrase things, how to lead, and how to get consensus in a group so she can be successful in her role.

Published by Pamela Vang

A first generation Canadian. Blogger. Lover of life. Sharer of experiences.

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